How Do I Make the Most of My Paternity Leave?

Excellent post by Michael Roston from the New York Times on his upcoming parental leave.

It was called How do I make the most of my paternity leave?

Late last year, The New York Times Company announced that it would offer six weeks of paid parental leave for all employees. The timing couldn’t have been better for me, because late last year I became a father. I worked out some scheduling with my managers, and my wife, and in one week’s time I’ll start paternity leave with our 4-month-old daughter as my wife returns to work from her maternity leave.

On Sunday, my wife and I had a conversation about things that I should understand about being home with our daughter full time. After we discussed various particulars, she asked if there was anything else I wanted to know. There was. “Do you have any general advice on staying sane?”

Later in the post he asked these 3 questions.

Day 128: Batteries Everywhere Were Running Low

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Well, it has been a week since I last checked in from the PL. Time is flying and as my time on parental leave runs out, I have been blogging less and really trying to soak up all the moments and experiences.

Today was one that I will try to avoid soaking up. More like ring it out and hope it never happens again.

Day 117: The Crying Game

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Today was the second day for Charlie at daycare. The difference for today’s visit was that it was two hours long and I would not be there for the second hour.

Well, that was rough on Charlie. Even moving a few feet away from him would upset the little guy. Now, based on his personality, this may not have anything to do with me. He tends to be an environment guy. If it is a place he does not want to be, it does not matter who he is with.

A daycare full of kids and babies is not quiet. It is chaos times a million and when you are used to a quiet and structured home life, well that can get to anyone. Especially a baby like Charlie.

Day 116: Orientation Week Is Going To Be Hardest On……

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Daycare orientation week is going to be hardest on ME!

Yep, forget the kids, they are going to love going to a new school. The person I am worried about is me. My time at home with the boys is coming to an end.

Today was our first trip to the new daycare. This week is a gradual introduction for Charlie and by Friday he will be going for a full day.

I have been with the little guy every day for six months and it is going to be hard to let that go.

Harrison will be starting at the new daycare next week but he got to check out his new class today as well. Let’s just say he loved it.

We packed up and left for the school just after 9 am today. The agenda was to go for an hour with me staying in the baby room with Charlie.

Tomorrow, it will be two hours and I leave for one.

Day 112: Trying To Keep The Bomb From Going Off

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What bomb you ask? Well I call it the Charlie Bomb. You see, our little baby is sick. He has a fever and he is grumpy. I am not 100% sure if it is the fever or the fact that he is not as hungry that is making him less than happy.

If you can believe it, this is my first time playing doctor on my parental leave. Yes, we have pretty healthy kids.

The timing is pretty good however, as Charlie starts his new daycare next week (orientation). So it is best to unleash germs at him now because as any parent who has started a new daycare knows, the kid will be sick in 10 seconds. All those new kids and their lovely germs. Can’t wait.

Day 107: Parental Leave Was Getting Too Easy

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August has said so long. School is back. September is here in full force.

Parental leave? Well it has been getting a little easy. It has been getting a little boring. To be honest, why do stay-at-home parents complain so much?

Okay, that last part, not nice of me. I am kidding of course. Taking care of the kids all day is a lot of work for sure.

For me, as I enter the last month of my parental leave, I guess I needed something to amp up the challenge.

Charlie, our baby boy has been a wonderful roommate for so far and I would have to say, he is pretty manageable.

So what could we do as a family to really test my dad skills? What would be the next challenge for me before I head back to work?

Well how about our other son, the soon-to-be 4-year old, staying home full-time as well?

Yep, challenge accepted.

Parental Leave Is Starting To Get That Sunday Night Feeling

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Don’t be confused, that’s not Charlie. I just like the photo. 

If you have ever worked the usual Monday to Friday grind, you know what it feels like on a Sunday night.

You are bummed the weekend is over.

You have a lot on your mind as you get ready for the new week.

You wish it would all just slow down a bit.

That is how my current run of parental leave is starting to feel.

Now before you start giving me grief about feeling bad that a 6-month run of being away from work is coming to an end, I get it.

I am a lucky guy to be experiencing this journey with my baby boy. I am not looking for sympathy. I am just starting to get that feeling that it is all starting to slip away, and at a very fast pace.

It seems like yesterday that is was April and I was just getting my feet wet.

With August coming to an end, everything is starting to feel like a Sunday night.

Day 61: Back It Up Partner

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The PL stands for Parental Leave, which I am currently doing for six months.

Day 61. Where has the time gone? With June coming to a close, that will mark the half way point on this parental leave. Wow. Well I better keep enjoying the time I have with the boys.

Today was pretty quiet with the weather being dull, but that did not mean there was no action in the house. Charlie is entering a stage where a lot is going to happen fast, so it is important to help him along and watch for the big changes. Next week, he is 9 months old. Big time!

I also wanted to get a post in because I am not sure how much blogging there will be over the next few days. It is the annual birthday/Canada Day weekend here. I am very excited to see what we get up to. Make sure you check out the Instagrams and Vines over the long weekend.

Day 61, you were a good one.

Day 58: The Perfect Summer Day

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The PL stands for Parental Leave, which I am currently doing for six months.

Summer started last Friday officially but today for me felt like the first day of summer. It was almost perfect. Short of my wife being home and not at work, it was one of those ideal days. The reason why? I got to go to the beach with my boys and have a great time. Not only did we hit the beach, we washed the car, went on a nature walk, relaxed in the basement and played in the backyard as the sun slowly went down. It could not have been scripted better. As I am almost half way into my 6-month leave from work, this was the day where I was like, oh yeah, this is what parental leave is all about.

Day 58, here is the rewind.

 

Dear Companies – Dads Want To Take Paternity Leave Too

As a dad currently on parental leave from my job in marketing, I have become very aware of the topic of dads staying home, while moms are going out and becoming the primary bread-winners. I am also becoming very aware of how the dads who do take leave from work are being treated in the business world.

The bottom line is, there is still a long way to go to even come close to how it is an accepted norm for moms.

Companies of all sizes need to better accept and welcome dads who want to do paternity leave. It is as simple as that.