Day 58: The Perfect Summer Day

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The PL stands for Parental Leave, which I am currently doing for six months.

Summer started last Friday officially but today for me felt like the first day of summer. It was almost perfect. Short of my wife being home and not at work, it was one of those ideal days. The reason why? I got to go to the beach with my boys and have a great time. Not only did we hit the beach, we washed the car, went on a nature walk, relaxed in the basement and played in the backyard as the sun slowly went down. It could not have been scripted better. As I am almost half way into my 6-month leave from work, this was the day where I was like, oh yeah, this is what parental leave is all about.

Day 58, here is the rewind.

 

Dear Companies – Dads Want To Take Paternity Leave Too

As a dad currently on parental leave from my job in marketing, I have become very aware of the topic of dads staying home, while moms are going out and becoming the primary bread-winners. I am also becoming very aware of how the dads who do take leave from work are being treated in the business world.

The bottom line is, there is still a long way to go to even come close to how it is an accepted norm for moms.

Companies of all sizes need to better accept and welcome dads who want to do paternity leave. It is as simple as that.

Day 49: Bath Time Is Fun Time

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The PL stands for Parental Leave, which I am currently doing for six months.

It is a rainy Wednesday morning over here, one boy is napping and one is watching a show. The perfect time to catch up on yesterday. I was pretty drained last night for some reason and the thought of sitting at the computer was painful. So what did I do? I sat at the computer last night and instead of blogging, I participated in a Twitter chat with other dads. I had never done that and it was pretty interesting. It certainly was a great way to interact and add to my followers list. Anyways, then I went downstairs and watched the Spurs put a 36-point beat down on the LeBron James and the Heat. Great way to end the day.

The weather was dull and Charlie was pretty content to hang around the house for the day. Not an exciting day on the PL, but it was fun.

Worst And Best Countries For Paid Maternity Leave

As a dad on parental leave who happens to be very much connected to an online group of dad bloggers, I was asking about other’s experiences.

The more and more I hear from other dads, the more I realize I have it pretty good living in Canada. We have a much longer period of time where we are granted paid leave to take care of a child.

My wife and I were discussing this and she said it would be a good blog post topic to see what the rest of the world offers in paid maternity/parental leave.

So, I did. It is always a good idea to listen to your wife.

When it comes to the world’s maternity leaves report card, not all countries are passing with flying colours.

In a report by the International Labour Organization (ILO) in 2012, the majority of the United States (excluding two states) received a failing grade in providing women and new mothers support entering motherhood. Based on what I hear from friends who live there, this did not surprise me at all. It is hard to believe they get so little time.

I have friends living in the US who are from Canada and this really bummed them out. Knowing they would not get the time to spend with their baby that they would have back home.

In at least 178 countries around the world, paid leave is guaranteed for working moms, while more than 50 countries provide wage benefits for fathers, according to the ILO. The United States, along with Papua New Guinea, Swaziland, Liberia and Lesotho are some of the only countries in the world that provide no type of financial support for mothers, according to a study done by McGill University’s Institute for Health and Social Policy.

The group looked at the top developed countries that are succeeding in maternity leave benefits, and which ones continue to fall far, far behind.

The country with the longest paid leave topped out at 420 days, while the length of time for countries with the lowest paid and unpaid leaves was around 12 weeks. Any guesses before reading on?

Here are the maternity leave benefits for 43 developed countries from shortest to longest periods of time based on data collected in 2011.

A link to all countries can be found at the bottom.

After going through this list, I have to say I am pretty happy to be living in Canada. Granted only having half of your pay is hard, but at least I get six months of it.

Day 39: Kids Were Not Feeling So Sleepy

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Oh Day 39, so close to 40. On this day, everyone was tired. Why? Well the day started at 5:30 am. Sounds about right for this dad who is still enjoying life on the PL.

Pretty quiet day although the naps were short and dad was pretty tired. It felt like a day where I did not get anything taken care of. I guess that is what Tuesday is for once Harrison goes back to school

The Spurs won, the Hawks won and Rob Ford’s world is falling apart by the minute. Now for what happened on the home front.

Day 33: Where Did Everyone Go?

Day 33, sunny, cold, somewhat quiet and I am getting to the daily post a little earlier in the evening. Why you ask?

Because everyone left.

Yep, my wife and boys got on a plane about an hour ago to fly to Toronto for the weekend. I dropped them off and waved to them as they went to security around 4:30 pm.

Now that I am home, it is quiet and very weird. This is my first time being away from Charlie.

They are all back on Monday.

So now what? What do I do with all this time?

Well tonight is just about living in the moment of peace and quiet. Living in the moment of not having to put anyone to bed. Living in the moment of watching TV during dinner.

Let’s back track before I start looking towards what I will be doing.

The day started with Charlie sleeping through the night again and Harry waking up dry again.

I tell yah, these two impress me every day. This weekend marks the one-year mark of me toilet training Harry, so it is cool that now is the time he is doing a great job going all night without a pee.

The only down side is the cat love to start his moaning at 5:30-6 am which is a really downer when the kids are playing their part in the movie called Sleep Through the Night.

Anyways, the cat is old and won’t be changing his ways any time soon.

Day 31: Don’t You Steal My Sunshine

Day 31, hoo baby what a ride so far.

It is getting to the point where daily readers know everything that goes on. Do I need better material? Nope. Our two boys are all that is needed when it comes to what to write about.

But some days are just hard to write. Some days there is no gas left in the tank or you would rather just move straight to the couch when the kids are finally asleep.

That usually happens to me on Tuesday it seems. Not that end of the week, but Tuesday. Why?

Well Saturday, Sunday and  Monday are full days with both boys so I guess once Harry goes back to school, it is a nice break to regroup and rest up for the rest of the week.

Maybe yesterday it was because the weather was pretty cold and rainy.

So what did happen while I was hope with Charlie?

Recap Of The First 25 Days Of Parental Leave

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So many memories, so many experiences and it has only been 25 days of parental leave. It kind of feels like 50 days to be honest. But in a good way.

My first five weeks of parental leave have gone pretty much how I expected. The only thing I did not count on was how tired I would be. I had planned on doing a lot of little projects while on PL (this blog being one) but to be honest, most days, when I do get free time, I just want to sit on the couch and rest.

I have had to push myself to do more. More around the house, more on my online projects and more when it comes to taking care of myself. I would say I am doing pretty good for at least three days per week. But once Friday hits, it seems to be a total write off.

I also have to remind myself that it is okay to be tired and to just relax. Taking care of a baby is tiring work, both mentally and physically. If anyone tells you different, they are not doing it right, or at least not enough.

I have had the chance to spend several hours every day with my baby boy. I have seen him learn to sleep in his crib, sit upright, eat solid food and watch him deal with incoming teeth.

With our first son, I saw all that as well but only in spurts. I was not there to see the “firsts” and I know my wife hates missing those this time around.

I will be here when he crawls and maybe even walks. It is very exciting and I feel lucky that I can do it.